Should I Dump My BF Before Study Abroad? Ask A Pro | Betches

Should I Dump My BF Before Study Abroad? Ask A Pro

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Dear Head Pro,

I want to keep this short because you really don't need to know my life story...I don't know you...we've never met. Anyway, I'm studying abroad this upcoming fall and either my boyfriend is too, but in a totally different country, or he's not... (He's still waiting to hear back) Point is, we'll be far apart no matter what. It may be easier if he's abroad too, but really who the fuck knows. So, what do you think is the best way to handle to this situation? I mean I love him very much and just don't know what is the most realistic approach to give our relationship the most longevity while simultaneously (and maybe more importantly) holding on to my sanity! (He also agrees for longevity but we've still yet to discuss the means to achieving that).

Sincerely,
LDR or G2G?

Bah, this sucks. For as much as we love studying abroad around here, it's an awfully high price to pay for getting drunk at the actual Notre Dame instead of the University of Notre Dame. This is a prime example. I say give it a go. LDRs are some dumb bullshit, but breaking up over logistics isn't a real breakup—the way you feel about one another won't change. LDRs are a lot more doable when there's a timetable involved, with the caveat that you'll have to accept the fact that the universe tends to unfold as it will. Practically everyone fucks when they're abroad; it's inevitable.

So by all means, put in a good faith effort—communicate often (but not constantly), update each other on what's going on and generally conduct yourself like someone in an exclusive relationship. But don't waste your time abroad, either. It's totally possible to maintain a relationship while apart for a time, but don't beat yourself up if you get the urge to sample some French dick. I hear their penises are covered in the same rind you see on wheels of brie cheese.

 

Dear Head Pro,

I'm hooking up with this guy from my school for a few months and although it is not anything serious I'm realizing I have feelings for him. I just got out of a long and really bad relationship last year so I am not looking for anything serious right now and I have someone who I can just text to hookup after a night out of my girls so this situation is convenient and works for me.

The problem is after we hook up, he always leaves right away. Now I am new  to these kind of hookup relationships so I'm not sure if people do this all the time to keep things casual but it really bugs me out. My friends say this is not ok and the guys they hook up with always stay the night. I am torn and need your advice. I feel stupid for sticking around and I don't know if I should be feeling like this.

I can't think of a witty sign off

Surprise surprise, someone you like enough to have sex with regularly has turned into someone you like in general. Leaving or staying after sex is, in and of itself, meaningless. There are so many reasons why it's just more practical for him. Since you're in college, he probably doesn't want to share your twin XL bed while your roommate snores above you. And contrary to popular belief, guys care about hygiene too. He probably wants to wake up in his own bed so he can shower, brush his teeth, etc. before getting on with his day.

Now, obviously people in collegiate relationships do the twin bed tango, space be damned. If you were a very worrisome person, you could take his acute lack of snuggling to mean that he doesn't have romantic feelings for you. That's probably a bridge too far, though, especially if you only text him and treat him like a booty call. He has no reason to suspect that you might actually want to wake up to his ass-breath and his boner poking you in the butt.

Easy solution? Next time you fuck, simply say "if you want to sleep here tonight, I'd like that." He'll likely stay (I personally hate having to get dressed and commute after a satisfying sex sesh), but if he doesn't, you're no worse off than you were before.

Email your most pressing questions for Head Pro to [email protected]. For more advice from Head Pro and The Betches, there's still time to preorder a copy of their new relationship book, I Had a Nice Time... And Other Lies. Doing so just might win you some free shit.




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