May 5, 2014
My boyfriend is a groomsman in his best friend's wedding in a few weeks, and we are traveling across the country to be there. The catch is that before we met, he hooked up with one of the bridesmaids. I'm talking like only a few weeks before we met...and from the sound of it, he was down to hook up with this girl again and SHE wasn't into it. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now and, being a pro, he's even moved me in to a fab apartment with him. So, things are pretty serious, but I'm obviously feeling weird that I'm going to be hanging out with a bridal party for a whole weekend's worth of events with some girl that he not only banged, but who wasn't into him. How do I handle this?
Betch Side-Eyeing the Bridesmaid
Dear Side-Eyeing the Bridesmaid,
If anything, the fact that this girl wasn’t into your boyfriend should be a good thing. Wouldn’t you be way more worried about being around some girl who was obsessed with him than someone he hooked up with and then was over it in two minutes?
You shouldn’t actually give a shit that your boyfriend had sex with before you if you’re confident in your relationship and secure about how he feels about you. The fact that you’re worried about this girl makes me think you’re unsure about your boyfriend’s feelings for you, which is weird considering the length of time you've been with him and the fact that you live together. Regardless, the best thing for you to do at any occasion involving a boyfriend’s ex is look at hot and pretend like you don’t give a shit. Considering she’s just a girl he had sex with one time, this should be pretty easy.
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