February 24, 2014
My best friend and I have been extremely tight for about a year. We have known each other for 11 and were really close in High school and then we got into long relationships and kind of fell out of keeping in touch as often. We would still hang out (usually with our partners) every few months. But now that we are both finally single for the same time, we are having the best time ever. Shopping, partying, talking to cute guys, hanging out a few times a week.
I don't even want a boyfriend because I enjoy her company so much. Recently we went out to a restauraunt and she met a guy and now she's head-over-heels for him. He took her on 4 amazing dates and now they are already in a relationship? I think that's way too soon but anyways. Now she hasn't been texting me as much. she blew me off last Wednesday for him to go
to a Spa and all she talks about is the guy when we are together. I feel like this is only going to get worse until we revert back to hanging out every few months and I'm feeling very resentful and can't help it. I really want their relationship to fail already so I can have my bestie back.
Am I being unreasonable?
Dear Yes You're Definitely Being Unreasonable,
It sounds like you and your friend are both limbo bitches who only used each other for friendship as a backup plan for when you didn't have a boyfriend. There's nothing wrong necessarily with having a friend that is only fun when she's single but it's weird of you to expect she'd be any different than she was the last time she was in a relationship now that she's in a new relationship. Your friendship has been tested before and it seems like you both had a mutual understanding that once a bro comes along you each take a back seat to them. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior and since in the past you guys ditched each other for guys, it shouldn't come as quite a shock that she's done it again.
It also seems like you're pretty jealous that your friend has found a guy first. It doesn't sound like she's your real bestie she's just someone you have fun partying with. My advice to you is to have more than one friend and next time you're in a relationship don't drop everyone for the guy. That obviously works out shitty and the only friends you'll keep will be the same flakey girls who also only have friends when they're single.
It's called a bestie circle because there should always be more than two people in it,