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Dear Betch, How Do I Deal With My Manager Creeping On Me?

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Dear Betches,

At the end of last summer, my assistant manager—and friend—told me he had feelings for me which, although I saw coming, was a very uncomfortable conversation. This had been a summer job and one employed by mainly college students filled with lots of employee-cest. So, this wouldn't have been completely inappropriate relationship except I had absolutely no feelings for him past friendship. Knowing that I would be coming back this summer, which I did, I thought it was important to keep him on friendly terms. We did talk throughout the year and everything seemed fine but a mutual friend of ours told me he was pretty upset about the situation. Now that we're both back at work it seems like the conversation we had last summer never happened at all and I can't tell if he's hopeful or actually thinks that my feelings have changed. But he's still flirty and essentially seems to act the same way as he did last summer which is frustrating. I feel like even being friendly can be interpreted as more if he wants to see it that way. My question for you is how do I handle the situation? I want to be friends still but I don't want to have to go through this all over again and also have to keep coming up with excuses as to why I can't hang out after work, days off, etc.


Sincerely,

I hate my job

Dear Naive Little Lamb,

K, first thing you have to do is get a grip on reality. Once again I find myself explaining what "friendship" actually means. A-fucking-gain, you do not have a friendship to try to salvage. You have a manager who's creeping on you. Y'all are not friends. So like, no. Get rid of your desire to "be friends still." Get out of La-la Land. Honestly, it's probably not too late to find a new ice cream scooping/camp counseling/lifeguarding job and avoid this dramatic-ass workplace environment in the first place, just saying. But anyway, you're right that "even being friendly can be interpreted as more if he wants to see it that way" because obviously this guy is kind of a creeper who has no problem coming onto his (probably younger) coworkers and doesn't seem to take no for an answer/pick up on social cues. So stop being so friendly. Keep all your convos strictly professional and give him the slow fade as much as possible. If he tries to come at you directly, just tell him you're not into him like that. Do it in writing so if he doesn't back off, you have hard evidence in case you need it later. Okay, I'm done here. That was easy. Thank you for tuning in to another episode of Logic: 101.

Use your brain (for my sake at least),

The Betches

Got a fucked-up problem only The Betches can solve? Email us at [email protected] and you just might get a response. Or you could pick up a copy of our new book, which probably answers your dumb-ass question. Either way.




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