Science Explains Why Men Fucking Suck At Flirting | Betches

Science Explains Why Men Fucking Suck At Flirting

By The Head Pro

Laydeez - tell me if this hasn’t happened to you, like, 500 times: You’re somewhere really boring, like the library or Taylor Swift’s bedroom while she’s having sex, and you meet a fella. Maybe you bump into each other, maybe you drop something and he helps pick it up, whatever. You smile, exchange pleasantries and go about your day. Before too long, you look down and notice something - that same guy,  giving you a blank-eyed stare and gently (but persistently) rutting on your leg. What gives? How on Earth did he take whatever banal small talk you exchanged as flirting?


As it turns out, some scientists believe that men straight up evolved to think any woman who doesn’t actively flee from us in disgust wants to fuck. New York Magazine has the scoop:

Error-management theory argues that men have evolved to overperceive sexual interest in non-familial female relationships so they don’t miss out on the opportunity to reproduce — at best, they get to pass on their genes; at worst, the woman ends up saying no and they move on. Women, on the other hand, have evolved to underperceive sexual interest, because sex with the wrong guy means risking pregnancy and child-rearing without the help of a mate.

Essentially, there are two theories: The one described above, and social-roles theory, which attributes the differences in flirtation perception to societal gender norms. To test it, a psychologist named Mons Bendixen recreated an old American experiment - only this time in Norway, one of the most gender-neutral places on Earth. If social-roles theory were true, the same results shouldn’t pop up in a place like Norway. Turns out, they did.

308 men and women were asked questions regarding whether their intentions had been misconstrued, in other words times when their friendliness got confused for sexual interest. The results were almost identical in Norway as they were in the U.S: 88% of Norwegian women reported it, versus 90% in the U.S.

(They also found that 70% of men reported the same thing, which is either a “Sure, Jan” moment, or just about everyone thinks that everyone else wants to fuck them.)

Basically, they’re taking this to say that error-management is a better theory to explain why men are so, so terrible at flirting and picking up signals. I’m usually pretty wary of sociobiological “science” like this (because it’s often a dumb, dumb tool for explaining modern human behavior), but this seems legit.

Now, you can feel good about your resting bitch face. You’re doing the men around you a favor.




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