Should I Dump My Long Term Boyfriend Because The Sex Sucks? Dear Betch... | Betches

Should I Dump My Long Term Boyfriend Because The Sex Sucks? Dear Betch...

By Betches Staff

Dear Betches,


I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we're madly in love. He has been nothing but supportive and there for me emotionally. With that being said I do not enjoy sex with him at all! We've tried just about everything but to me it still feels like a chore, of course I have never told him this. I have gotten so sexually frustrated that I recently slept with an ex-fuck buddy because he's been the only guy that has ever made me orgasm and the sex is phenomenal! But he lacks the emotional/supportive part. This is also where other things start coming into play. My boyfriend demands that I give him all of my passwords, he logs into my email and checks my history, pictures, and locations, and he does not let me go out to bars or clubs with friends unless he goes. He believes that if you're in a relationship there shouldn't be any type of privacy. I truly do love him but his insecurities and the fact that I do not get any excitement from having sex with him is finally starting to take its toll on me.

Do I stay with the guy that loves me but that is insecure and continue to not have any type of enjoyment when it comes to sex? Or go back to an ex that gave me no type of emotional support but had the most amazing sex I've ever experienced?

Please help me,

Whirlwind of emotions

Dear Ron Burgundy,

(Cause you're trapped in a glass case of emotion). Welp, props to you for the accurate subject line (it was "Fucked up question/s") because this is pretty fucked up. You cheating is fucked up. But at the same time, your bf being a psychopath is also fucked up. (Ladies: if a guy ever feels entitled to go through your private shit, whether or not you have something to hide, that's kind of a sign your relationship is over. I know you don't want to listen to your parents, but trust actually is essential in relationships.) And finally, the fact that despite the fact that you've been dating your bf for three years you still don't feel comfortable discussing your sexual needs is fucked up. All of this is fucked up.

OK now that we've covered how fucked your situation is, let's get to the question at hand. Do you go with shitty boyfriend or shitty hookup...hmmm...the obvious answer is neither. Like, it concerns me that you didn't even consider this an option. There's this new thing called being single, heard of it? Maybe you should give it a try because it seems like neither of the bros in your life are particularly good for you.

Just a thought,

The Betches

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