Open Letter To Basic Bros Who Throw Out The Term "Crazy"

Dear chauvinistic assholes,

I’ve been seeing a very, very unfortunate trend in modern millennial dating in which guys throw out the terms “crazy”, “psycho”, or “stage 5 clinger” when a girl as much as texts him to be like, “Hey u up?”. News fucking flash: It’s 2016. You know what’s really “crazy”? Here’s a refresher, losers.

  • Donald Trump possibly being the Republican fucking nominee and subsequent Leader of the Free World
  • ZAYN leaving One Direction and his last name in the dust (RIP)
  • North Korea….. watch a Vice documentary on those weirdos, would ya
  • Hoverboarding. Why is that even a thing?
  • This little thing called ISIS and global terror—ever heard of it?

I hope that puts things into perspective for you. Trying to communicate and show positive interest and affirmation (aka, texting you 1-2 times a week) doesn't make a girl “thirsty”. It makes her a normal fucking person—and BTW, you should feel #blessed that a betch is into you in the first place.

Of course, there are real “stage 5 clingers” out there, both men and women. Case in point: My (female) best friend once met a perfectly nice, cute guy in a bar. They exchanged numbers and went on one date which was pretty okay. Next thing she knew, she’d be looking at her Instagram notifications and he’d be tagging her in AT LEAST SIXTEEN posts per day. He’d send her paragraphs and paragraphs at a time, Snapchat her twenty times a day, and even put a down payment on a puppy that she mentioned she wanted, assuming they would raise it together when their one mediocre dinner date turned into a fruitful marriage. (He actually raises the puppy alone now because obviously she had to ghost him). Does this guy warrant a "crazy" label? Absolutely. But unless you can honestly say that every girl you're calling "crazy" acts like this—in which case, you have bigger problems, like why you're a magnet for the mentally unstable—then it's time to reassess your vocab.

There is a very problematic, gendered paradox when it comes to men and women in romantic relationships. For example, T-Swift gets called “crazy” all the time for writing songs about her exes. When Robin Thicke wrote and performed “Paula”, a desperate plea for his ex-wife Paula Patton to take him back after he got caught cheating, it was dubbed in the media as “a heartfelt reconciliation”. WHAT FRESH HELL IS THIS? 

Bottom line, the word “crazy” is a convenient term for men, and an often discriminatory word for women. Some men (#notallmen, wouldn't want you to get too butthurt) simply throw out the term because it’s easier than getting down and dirty with their real emotions, and address real issues within their relationships in a healthy way. So, next time you’re about to call a betch crazy, boys, think before you speak. It’s like, the rules of feminism.

Not your BSCB,

The Betches




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