If you’ve been humming, “In a room full of people I LOOK for yooouu,” to yourself ever since Sombr’s performance at the VMAs, you’re not alone. The man is a rising superstar, and for good reason — all of his hits are highly addictive. The 20-year-old alt-pop singer is kind of like if Role Model and the Arctic Monkeys had a baby (Role Model’s personality and Arctic Monkeys’ sound), and evidently, that’s what the kids crave right now. Although the dude’s currently the 34th most listened to artist on Spotify (NBD), lots of people are just starting to discover him now. I saw one hilarious tweet that read: “They invented this guy last Thursday.”

Sombr’s actually been releasing music for years, but he only skyrocketed to fame over the past few months. He blew up on TikTok for writing criminally catchy hits about failed teen romances. Who inspired “Back to Friends,” “Undressed,” and “12 to 12”? Well, here’s everything we know about Sombr’s dating history and relationship status.

Sombr Dating History: Girlfriends, Exes, Today

Who Did Sombr Write “Back To Friends” And “12 To 12” About?

Back in February, Sombr revealed on TikTok that “Back to Friends” was inspired by an ex-girlfriend. “When the song I wrote about my ex pretending she didn’t know me anymore hits #5 on pop rising so now she’s hitting me up,” he wrote in a video featuring the song. The singer joked in his caption, “like lowkey I want to reply tho lol but I shouldn’t.”

Although his fans (Sombaddies, I believe they’re called) have shared a few theories about the mysterious ex, Sombr’s assured them that they haven’t figured out her identity. In a May TikTok video, he wrote, “Me watching people choose a random girl and spread a rumor that she’s the ex I wrote these songs about then spamming her posts.” Sombr added, “y’all will never find the real ex love you tho.” With all the online detectives out there, it’s very impressive that he’s managed to keep her identity private.

During his performance on The Tonight Show, Sombr shared a message to his ex mid-song: “I still think about what I would say to you if we were standing face to face, but I still don’t know.” A chalant king!

Is Sombr Dating Addison Rae?

Addison played Sombr’s love interest in his “12 to 12” music video, and they sparked dating rumors last July when they were spotted grabbing dinner in L.A. But when TMZ asked Sombr about their relationship, he smiled and clarified, “Nah, dude, it was just a music video.” Looks like these two are just friends and collaborators for now.

Good news for the tweens: At the moment, Sombr appears to be single. Between his TV appearances, the VMAs, and an upcoming tour, it doesn’t seem like he has much time for dating these days.