In the past few years, phone sex has gotten a face lift. From sexting nudes to partners to putting on whole masturbation shows on FaceTime, the way people get down and dirty from a distance has changed drastically. And while I’m personally a big fan of a good mutual rubdown via video call, I can totally understand why not everyone else is super eager to shove their genitals into a camera and go to town. So, can we please bring back old-fashioned phone sex?
Recently, audio porn has become increasingly popular, especially among women, which says a lot about the way we like to be aroused. While humans are definitely visual creatures, there is a certain allure to the idea of appealing to other senses when it comes to sex. So channeling this idea when it comes to some long-distance sex dates with a partner can take your otherwise virtual phone sex into a sexy aural level.
If you’ve been wanting to take it back in time and dabble in some simple-aural phone sex but you think you’re a little out of practice, don’t worry. Just pick up the phone and dial their number. Here’s how to have really great phone sex.
Get In The Mood
Like before any type of sex, you want to make sure you feel your sexiest, horniest, and your most turned on. And if you don’t feel quite there, there are a few things you can do to help.
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First, make sure that if you have roommates or live with family, there is zero chance of them walking in or calling your name in the middle of phone sex. Seriously, lock your door and wait for no one to be home because nothing will ruin phone sex quite like your roommate asking you to pick up toilet paper.
Once you’ve established you won’t be interrupted, get comfortable in a clean space. Tidy up your room, change the sheets, and light a sexy, scented candle to help get in the mood. Also, what you wear can definitely add to how aroused you feel, even if your partner won’t see it. Whether it’s lingerie or a silky pair of shorts, getting dressed up for yourself will always only make you feel hotter.
Most importantly, please remember to charge your phone.
Describe A Sexual Scenario
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If it’s the actual conversation part of phone sex that makes you nervous, you’re not alone. Phone sex puts you in a super vulnerable position and if it’s not something you do often, it can feel super awkward. But all kinds of sex can be awkward! And that’s no reason to give up or stop yourself from trying.
One way to get things going is to start talking about some sort of sexual encounter between you and your partner. Whether you’re referencing a sexy memory or coming up with one on the spot, talking about it over the phone as your voice gets heavier and breathier is sure to make both you and your partner get into it.
Saying things like “If you were here, I’d start by kissing down your neck,” and “Remember when you had me pinned against the wall?” is bound to get your partner’s blood rushing. Plus, it puts you in the moment. The more you and your partner describe the ways you’d touch each other or have done in the past, the more you can let your imagination run wild.
Talk Through Masturbation
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Having phone sex that doesn’t involve FaceTime does not mean that there’s no masturbation involved. Quite the opposite, friend. Touching yourself while on the phone with your partner is the whole point of phone sex. It’s a fun alternative to a video call because there’s less pressure about what you may look like or being performative.
To make your phone sex hotter, tell your partner how you’re touching yourself and have them do the same to you. Are you tracing your fingers up and down your thighs? Are you putting your fingers in your mouth and then touching your nipples? Fantastic. Tell them all about it.
Moan It Up
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Because phone sex is all about the audio, make sure you’re allowing yourself to be as vocal with your pleasure as possible. Talking in deep, drawn out breathy whispers is definitely sexy AF, but nothing tops an auditory experience like hearing someone moan for you. But remember that you don’t have to overdo it just because they can’t see you. Sure, phone sex is all about the audio, but that doesn’t mean it has to be forced or fake. Let yourself be turned on and explore your body in a way that feels good, and I promise the sounds you make will be sexier than anything you could pretend.